Being a Yes mum…

I love arts, I love crafting but I don’t really love doing it with a toddler.

I realise that messy play is so vital and amazing for a childs development and such a fantastic way to allow them to express themselves but once that first paint pot is tipped over and crayon is all over the wooden dining table my heart sinks a little, its not that fun for me anymore and I can feel my stress levels rising!

I am having an internal battle, I really don’t want to be a mum that’s shadowing their child, cloth in hand, wiping up the crumbs, mud and marks but I also cant shake off my ‘I like things neat and organsied personality’ so I am trying to adapt and meet in the middle.

Paint is for nursery or toddler groups but crayons and colouring pencils (under supervision) can be for home. Playdough is cool but one colour at a time, I mean why would you mix up the colours??!

Water play fine but lets cover the area in towels first. Glitter ohhh haven’t got to that yet but I feel a firm NO not at home coming on!

Baking, tricky as if you read my blog you know I love to bake and you’ll know that its my therapy so that’s something I need to find middle ground on, perhaps we’ll start with crispy cakes and not expect a 3 tier Vicky sponge just yet but for now baby steps as that’s my thing!

Something that I am not a party pooper about is outdoor play. Mud and puddles are no problem, I love being outside, fresh air really is needed for us all plus Sonny can be entertained for ages with a toy digger, dumper and pile of stones, clothes can be washed and hands will be clean after.    Recently we went to one of our favourite parks to be greeted with a massive puddle, what did my 2 year old do??…jump in it of course! Cue the looks of 2 families wearing what looked like their best clothes giving me horrified glances! The wellies were on and spare clothes in the car so what’s the point in spending an hour trying to run and pull Sonny away from the puddle, getting myself into a stressed sweaty mess when Ian and I could stand back and see how happy walking through a puddle over and over again made him?!

Saying Yes carry on, have fun and not worrying about the mess and clean up operation after felt really good. My challenge is to be more of a ‘Yes’ mum, I will practice more and more on the crafty side so you never know there maybe hope for some glitter yet?

Love Harriet x

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Juggling Screen time…..

Warning new mum worry has set in! This time the concern is… is my child having too much screen time? The answer to this question for us at the moment is no but its something that’s on my mind especially as the weather is getting unpredictable and rainy meaning we are a little more confined to the house.

The debate of what is too much screen time could go on for ages and I am sure there are plenty of strong opinions out there, mine is a love/hate relationship! Love because its a gentle way start the day, once breakfast is done, a bit of postman pat to ease into the day ahead isn’t going to do us any harm. Like wise after bath time, I love to snuggle with my freshly washed boy under a blanket and watch Bear Hunt or recently the Lion King- I mean I cant wait til Sonny enjoys cuddling up to watch a film and munch on popcorn!

If Sonny is being extra fussy at dinner or I need to quickly hoover the house then the trusty Ipad is a great distraction and helps me to achieve the mountain of jobs I am juggling daily; Having said that, I am conscious I don’t want it to be the easy option and for Sonny to just absorb the TV rather than create his own little games. I don’t want morning TV to turn into the whole day of CBeebies.

A few people have commented on how well Sonny can entertain himself, sit for a while and interact with his toys and role play, so that must mean the balance is right?

We are also a family who loves to get out of the house, a Sunday stroll or play date,  get some fresh air and tire little legs out plays a massive part in our day so surely as long as we continue to break and mix up the routine, we are onto a winning combo?

I haven’t downloaded any educational games for the Ipad yet, he seems content with the little time his does have with the screen but I’d love to know of any programme you’ve heard of or used yourself that you can recommend. Using the screen for learning purposes will help with the mum worry surely!

Love Harriet x

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