I literally can’t believe it was a year ago that I wrote Sonny’s first birthday post ! 730 days you have been with us and my goodness you’ve grown into such a little character! I look back and think that first year was such a shock to the system, some days felt super long but the months altogether went quick! We were learning so much and speeding into this massive world of parenthood.
Fast forward, year 1 to year 2, don’t get me wrong hasn’t been easier but it hasn’t been harder, we’ve learnt that we actually are making such an impact into your little life. The affection that you show has surely come from what you’ve received? Your knowledge and development is so rewarding to witness, you really are giving back to what we are so happy to put in.
Everyday we are amazed at something you’ve done or said and you have that power to stop us in our tracks…my heart skipped when you sang ‘twinkle twinkle little star’ on your own whilst walking down the stairs or when we spot diggers and you shout ‘I see it mummy’ literally my womb aches!!
Of course I have never needed a more peaceful evening cup of tea or sweated as much (even after many HIIT sessions) as I do when you sprint off towards a busy road, throw your dinner all over the floor that I literally just cleaned or throw a tantrum in a very public place…you really know how to rise the ol’ body temperature!
18 Months onwards has really taught me patience, I mean repeating ‘hitting hurts’ ‘don’t bite mummy’ ‘you’ll break your toy if you throw it’ a million times a day will push even the most zen of people over the edge!
All that being said I take the repetitive talk and the massive task trying to teach you right from wrong on, I’ll take that as the flip side is so worthwhile, your little face when you get excited over ‘Bing’ or we treat you to an ice cream is just too adorable! The excitement you show us is just way too bloody cute!!
So my little friend roll on 2-3 years, I cant wait to go on more adventures and just generally have more conversations with you, you really are amazing and such a little mate!
Happy birthday for the 17th!
Love you Sonny x
I never really paid much thought to how I would parent or the choices Ian and I would make once we had a family together but what we seemed to have developed is some sort of tag team?? I don’t even know if its a known term or if I’ve made it up but it very much sums up the parenting style that has found us and also I think saved me from going insane!
I couldn’t imagine parenting alone, I am not weak , challenge me to a challenge and I am the most competitive person with a strong mind however, gone are the days (thank god!) where the women is expected to bring up the children, run a household, hold a job together whilst spinning on her head and applying a slick of lipstick at the same time.
I’m not ashamed to say I need my husbands help & support, I need him to equally take on the challenge of bringing up Sonny, after all he is both of our responsibility plus I work hard too, I love my job so I need him to chip in and help run the household for the good of our family (and marriage).
Ian is so good at the above but wow I get told how hands on he his far too frequently, don’t get me wrong it is so great but no one has gone to him and said how lucky he is that I am hands on, that’s just a given that the mum is involved.
Through this parenting journey we’ve found that we both need time to have a breather, whether its time for exercise or meeting our mates, we tag team so that we can allow the other person that piece of space. Sonny has 2 happy parents and a strong bond with both of us, he gets to see Mummy and Daddy working together whilst having an ‘hour or so off’ and coming back refreshed and revived ready for a happy family life.
I am so thankful we live in a time where dads are typically stepping up and the roles are more equal. I don’t know how the women generations before stayed sane..maybe they didn’t! Seriously though maybe its because they didn’t have to go back to work or other commitments outside of the home?
The only thing we personally need to consciously continue to do is keep allowing a day free for family time, time as a 3 ohhh and also time for date nights so we don’t do too much separately!
Love Harriet x
Recently I had a guest spot on one of my favourite Parenting blogs CheltenhamMaman last week which was so exciting! I thought I would share the post here if you didn’t get a chance to see it…
As soon as I think we are in a routine and have got this parenting malarky all figured out, its like my toddler knows its time to throw a curve ball, time for another phase to hit, another challenge to divert you off course again!
Currently we are in the ‘I’m going to wake up at 5.30am everyday’ and I can tell you that no amount of ‘Baby Jake’ after breakfast will ever make the day start right. See, Cbeebies is the gauge in the Patchett household and you know its a good day when you turn on the tv and are greeted by ‘Bing’ or ‘Postman Pat’ – That’s a good amount of sleep!
I find this early rising a particulary hard phase for me, I really need/LOVE/need my sleep and anything before 6.30 is still night time in my eyes. I think the sting that makes it worse is that we’ve just got over the baby phase, the waking in the night, teething and midnight cries for dummy, now I’ve been spoilt with better nights sleep again!
Not to mention turning up to work feeling extra bleary-eyed or if its a day at home that early start just makes it feel super long!
We’ve just passed another delightful phase that rears its head far too often at the moment; The phase of not eating much for a couple weeks, refusing all the dishes Sonny couldn’t get enough of last week. This always panics me and sends me into full worry mode; worry that he’ll never eat nutritious proper meals again, worried he forever will be fussy, become an adult man who will only eat chips and fish fingers…my mind takes over and runs wild!
I really need to remind myself not to stress and remember ‘it’s just a phase’. A week later Sonny is on a 3 course breakfast again and at dinner spooning that vegetable pie into his mouth! This phase happens quite regularly and I’ve read will continue to do so through childhood so I need to learn to ride it out!
There is no way to prepare myself for what’s next but I need to just keep reminding myself, its just a phase and as quickly as it arrives, it will leave and hopefully leave a stronger, slightly more tired looking mum (and dad) behind it!
Love Harriet x
I wrote back in March about my love for mothers day (here) so it only seems right that we give our fathers and also our husbands who are fathers a big pat on the back too and what better way than Fathers day…
As much as I love celebrating Mum, I’d love to celebrate and thank my Dad and also thank Ian for being such an amazing dad to Sonny. Whilst thinking about this post it struck me how lucky I am to even feel inspired enough to write a post like this. So many people I know (or have met along the way) aren’t close to their dads, they didn’t have a strong presence in their life which makes me sad but also lucky that I feel close to the males in my life and value the importance of fathers just as much as mothers.
I have a lot of character traits similar to my dad, I have always admired his hard work and determination along with his passion for family time, making sure we catch up and socialise with each other, I really enjoy spending time with him and Sonny loves his granddad too!
I also need to say how lucky Sonny is to have a dad like Ian, not many dads seem as secure or confident with their baby/toddler and I have witnessed many dads panic at the thought of being left alone entertaining them, not Ian! Sonny and Ian have so much fun together on their own, some amazing bonding time and Ian is not afraid to parent just as much as me! I am obviously very thankful when they go off on a swimming date together and leave me with a little peace. Sonny has such a fantastic role model and I wouldn’t want to parent with anyone else!
Big love to the dads who are doing a good job, I still think unfortunately there are many who could take a lesson from you!
Love Harriet x
I used to be such a book worm until the last few years where I’ve hardly picked up a book or felt engaged enough to see one through, I could blame an over active brain juggling work and a toddler, come 7.30pm I just want to sit and not focus on anything..until now!
This year my birthday list included quite a few books that I fancied delving into. Estee Lalondes’ Bloom being one of them, mostly because it looked so pretty and a perfect asset to any coffee table! Giovanna Fletcher and Fearne Cotton well they are majorly on my girl crush list and both books so different but equally intrigued me!
I read Bloom in a day, I had some time to take from work and with Sonny in nursery, the light hearted and beautifully presented book was so easy to read. I loved the variety of sections detailing Estée’s life and experiences plus growing up at a similar time meant so much of it was relatable and the references I totally got! The photos are as you expect, gorgeous! I totally recommend this as an easy flick through book especially if your in you mid to late (ahem) twenties.