A little Headspace….

As I get further into my twenties (only 6 more months of being able to say that!..ah!) I’ve started to really understand the importance of looking after my mind as well as my body.

I’ve exercised hard for well over 15 years and consciously eaten for my body but its often our minds..one of the most important parts!..that gets neglected, it needs a dose of TLC, a little breathing space in order to keep healthy and I feel like its only now that its all suddenly clicked.

There is no hiding from the fact that the pressures of everyday life are increasing at a rapid rate, with anxiety at an all time high and mental health discussed so openly, more and more of us are turning to mindfulness to undo our muddled minds or calm the traffic in our head.

After being an avid list maker to calm my thoughts and firm believer of a problem shared is a problem halved, I realised that sometimes this isn’t enough and maybe I needed to learn how to take myself off to a quiet space and just ‘re-set’ myself. I downloaded the app ‘Headspace’ and have been following the guided mediation programme. One session a day, 3 minutes long, it was so simple and surprisingly easy to follow, the voice taking you through the session is gentle and relaxing plus the programme itself acknowledges that this may all feel strange to begin with but encourages you to stick with it.

After quite a few sessions I can honestly say just having a bit of quiet space and time to focus myself has been really amazing! I feel calmer, stronger and feel a similar buzz to after a sweaty workout. I 100% recommend trying this app, just give yourself a few minutes of you time!

Let me know if you try it!

Love Harriet x

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Tag Team Parenting…

I never really paid much thought to how I would parent or the choices Ian and I would make once we had a family together but what we seemed to have developed is some sort of tag team?? I don’t even know if its a known term or if I’ve made it up but it very much sums up the parenting style that has found us and also I think saved me from going insane!

I couldn’t imagine parenting alone, I am not weak , challenge me to a challenge and I am the most competitive person with a strong mind however, gone are the days (thank god!) where the women is expected to bring up the children, run a household, hold a job together  whilst spinning on her head and applying a slick of lipstick at the same time.

I’m not ashamed to say I need my husbands help & support, I need him to equally take on the challenge of bringing up Sonny, after all he is both of our responsibility  plus I work hard too, I love my job so I need him to chip in and help run the household for the good of our family (and marriage).

Ian is so good at the above but wow I get told how hands on he his far too frequently, don’t get me wrong it is so great but no one has gone to him and said how lucky he is that I am hands on, that’s just a given that the mum is involved.

Through this parenting journey we’ve found that we both need time to have a breather, whether its time for exercise or meeting our mates, we tag team so that we can allow the other person that piece of space.  Sonny has 2 happy parents and a strong bond with both of us, he gets to see Mummy and Daddy working together whilst having an ‘hour or so off’ and coming back refreshed and revived ready for a happy family life.

I am so thankful we live in a time where dads are typically stepping up and the roles are more equal. I don’t know how the women generations before stayed sane..maybe they didn’t! Seriously though maybe its because they didn’t have to go back to work or other commitments outside of the home?

The only thing we personally need to consciously continue to do is keep allowing a day free for family time, time as a 3 ohhh and also time for date nights so we don’t do too much separately!

Love Harriet x

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She’s getting Married….Bath Hen
  1. One of my besties is getting married and it was my special job to arrange the hen plans, cue spreadsheets and note pads galore, it was time to plan!
    After what felt like months of nailing a cottage big enough for these 13 chicks plus the need to be in a fab location, I finally confirmed a beauty! Set just outside of Bath and with its own heated pool and mini spa, it was all ours for a gloriously warm weekend in June.

Once the hefty admin bits were ticked off,  money exchanged, endless shopping lists written and millions of whats app messages exchanged, it was finally time for the fun frilly stuff to be arranged, the games, the décor, the pretty paper straws and marble napkins! Ebay became my best friend and I’m sure the postman now wonders what I do to warrant so many random delivery’s!

The week leading up was daunting and I was sure something had been missed, throw in the task of boxing up the food and storing it in the crazy heat wave along with baking and icing cupcakes and my first attempt at a gluten/ dairy free lemon cake, it was hard to  resist the temptation of opening the prosecco early! Friday rolled round and with my trust assistant Zoe we excitedly loaded the car ready to meet the other ladies and finally set off!

We made a pit stop at the Bear & Swan pub in Chew Magna which had a lovely quaint but boutique feel to it. Zo and I wanted to quickly slip away and leave the girls to finish their lunch whilst we opened the cottage and sprinkled some hen décor around before the ‘Bride to be’ arrived.

Once we had all excitedly looked around the house, gathering our bearings, running out for a quick trampoline (!) it was time for afternoon tea complete with pink prosecco and loads of sugar. The afternoon flew in a haze of bubbly fizz and before we knew it we were in our comfy clothes and ready for an evening of party food and plenty of games!

Many laughs later and plenty of shots consumed it was time for bed and ready for a Saturday full of spa treatments and inflatable unicorn loving!

 

A hen wouldn’t be complete without the chance to glam up, grab a cocktail and hit the dancefloor with the girls so we ventured into beautiful bath and enjoyed a more sophisticated Saturday night out with a chance to burn off the ever consumed calories on the dancefloor!

The weekend flew, the group of girls were amazing, everything was fun, full of giggles and perfect for our bride Bekie! After a million pictures shared, we all gave our goodbye hugs and excitedly planned another night out before the wedding obvs!!

 

We booked our cottage and pieced together a package with the help of  Acacia Cottages and I cannot recommend them enough, so efficient and helpful!

If you’re going on a hen, have an amazing time!

Love Harriet x

 

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Fathers day….

I wrote back in March about my love for mothers day (here) so it only seems right that we give our fathers and also our husbands who are fathers a big pat on the back too and what better way than Fathers day…

As much as I love celebrating Mum, I’d love to celebrate and thank my Dad  and also thank Ian for being such an amazing dad to Sonny. Whilst thinking about this post it struck me how lucky I am to even feel inspired enough to write a post like this. So many people I know (or have met along the way) aren’t close to their dads, they didn’t have a strong presence in their life which makes me sad but also lucky that I feel close to the males in my life and value the importance of fathers just as much as mothers.

I have a lot of character traits similar to my dad, I have always admired his hard work and determination along with his passion for family time, making sure we catch up and socialise with each other, I really enjoy spending time with him and Sonny loves his granddad too!

I also need to say how lucky Sonny is to have a dad like Ian, not many dads seem as secure or confident with their baby/toddler and I have witnessed many dads panic at the thought of being left alone entertaining them, not Ian! Sonny and Ian have so much fun together on their own, some amazing bonding time and Ian is not afraid to parent just as much as me! I am obviously very thankful when they go off on a swimming date together and leave me with a little peace. Sonny has such a fantastic role model and I wouldn’t want to parent with anyone else!

Big love to the dads who are doing a good job, I still think unfortunately there are many who could take a lesson from you!

Love Harriet x

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My new favourite books….

I used to be such a book worm until the last few years where I’ve hardly picked up a book or felt engaged enough to see one through, I could blame an over active brain juggling work and a toddler, come 7.30pm I just want to sit and not focus on anything..until now!

This year my birthday list included quite a few books that I fancied delving into. Estee Lalondes’ Bloom being one of them, mostly because it looked so pretty and a perfect asset to any coffee table! Giovanna Fletcher and Fearne Cotton well they are majorly on my girl crush list and both books so different but equally intrigued me!

I read Bloom in a day, I had some time to take from work and with Sonny in nursery, the light hearted and beautifully presented book was so easy to read. I loved the variety of sections detailing Estée’s life and experiences plus growing up at a similar time meant so much of it was relatable and the references I totally got! The photos are as you expect, gorgeous! I totally recommend this as an easy flick through book especially if your in you mid to late (ahem) twenties.

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