After all the prep, mountains of invitations sent and probably a lot of aching fingers from crafting the hell out of your big day, its suddenly here, upon you quicker than you had ever imagined.
I have met brides who are so chilled, breezy and relaxed before their big day that a quick guest drop out or last minute gluten free meal request (happens all the time!) wont cause a flicker of panic and then I’ve met brides who go into complete melt down and nearly call off the whole day because a shade of purple on the chair cover is so slightly (and I mean sooo slightly) different to the ribbon on the church service booklets – Come on! Serious first world problems!! Meeting all these lovely ladies gave me an upper hand and great indication of how I wanted to feel and act on my big day…Perks of planning many a wedding before my own you see!
Here are a collection of tips for the night before or the day of your wedding to ensure you can really soak it all up and keep as calm as possible.
Disclaimer, anyone who knows me knows that I really believe in the prep and organisation so if you are like me then I hope these nuggets of info will help.
Prior to the day:
Allocate jobs, share the ‘to do’ list among friends, drop off your centre pieces, place cards etc to the venue with instructions on how to set up the tables or even better you set up the tables a day or so beforehand, eliminate that stress late on the night before or on the actual day!
Make a weekend of it, the day itself goes so quickly that I wanted to plan a little BBQ with my closest girls and bridesmaids the night before, a chance to share stories and build up the excitement together and of course more memories to look back on. One of my friends had family from north travelling down so they had a 4 day party with loads of laughter and photos, the wedding was just the icing on the cake!
Grab an early night, it seems obvious but often I hear many brides say they didn’t sleep well the night before. Set yourself to unwind and allow yourself time to just try and switch off, come the morning the house will be full of people again and you want to make sure you had as much sleep as you possibly could have.
On the day:
Stop and take it in as much as possible, its easier said then done but it is true when people say the day flies by! Plan to be with your husband as much as you can, the demands of the day may pull you in different directions but its nice to get together and watch all your hard work unfold and all the people you love having such a good time.
Plan your photo schedule, not only will most photographers require this but it means you’ll capture the important moments as well as saving time on the day faffing with awkward poses and take up valuable mingling, prosecco drinking time…
Following on, don’t drink too much! Yes enjoy some fizz, god you’ve deserved it! Just don’t drink too much, you want to remember every part of this day and no one likes a sloppy drunk bride, just a merry one!
Talk to the people you really want to; This is something I really told myself to do, I didn’t want to waste precious time with people I don’t normally see or have even met (sorry to offend) I wanted to chat to my lovely family and best friends, share the giddiness together… not get stuck in small talk with someone that didn’t even know my name! To be honest the majority of my guests were all close, even if there were 135 in the day…our families are big!
Dance with your friends , again another biggie for me, I didn’t want to miss out on all the fun and fab music. I wanted to party with the girls I normally party with, re-live our usual dancefloor antics so that’s exactly what I did and it still remains one of my favourite memories!
Eat the cake, the cake you’ve carefully picked, probably in your favourite flavour but its something I missed out on and I was truly gutted! Cake is one of my favourite things in life anyway but my amazing friend had lovingly made my Wedding cake and I didn’t even get to sample the finished result! Don’t miss out on your cake, plus calories after your wedding taste amazing, lets face it you’ve probably dieted or ‘carefully’ eaten beforehand!
Lastly anything you haven’t done already isn’t important and often the small details your guests wont even notice, they are there for you and your husband/wife so remember there’s nothing worse then a miserable bride (and believe me I’ve seen some! )
Enjoy your day! Love Harriet x
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